Stop Chasing Someone Else’s Dream

I had a client who wanted to be wealthy. I asked him what would that look like? Right away he assumed that it had to be the big house or fast cars and lots of money. When he started to think about it, he started to realized that it might look different for each person. He’d never really given it much thought. It was like an abstract thought that you just toss around carelessly.

When we started to nail it down, it was a certain amount of money that would actually make him feel wealthy or successful.  I say this because wealth looks different for each person. I have done parties for people in my mind would be considered wealthy, but next to a billionaire would not. It’s all relative to your personal experience. Actually a couple of these people in this group, tried the Corporate route and found out that it made them miserable. One of those people found that he actually like to teach and coach children. That was what made his soul sing and brought him happiness.

The beautiful part about this group was that even though their friends found happiness in different ways. These friends stayed true to each other. If there was a bridal shower. They might use the friend’s house to have the party, but the friends that could financially afford to pay for the catering did so. No one was using each other. These friends stayed friends because of their friendships not over money.

I think it’s so easy to assume things about people without knowing the facts. I see this with people who are narrow-minded. I say narrow-minded, because not all people who are poor think this way. There is a huge differences in the churches these people go to as well. The churches, temples, (other religious types) that people who have wealth go to support the idea that the highest honor you can show your creator is to be successful and wealthy and that poverty is a sin.

People that go to churches in areas that have high poverty will be very shocked by the statement above. That’s because their churches like to harp on the evils of money and try their very best to keep the people in their community in poverty. This is why the wealthy stay wealthy in their thoughts and deeds. Totally different mind-set. When I was taking my prosperity course, I found this very obvious in the books I was required to read. I was very shocked when it said in black and white that poverty was a sin and that if you were showing proper respect to your creator you should try to be the very best you could be by being happy and successful and wealthy.

Here is where Happy, Successful and Wealthy are open to interpretation. This is not to compare you to someone else. This is to compare you only to yourself. When you chase someone else’s dream, you will never win or be happy. When you chase your own dream, you will find that somethings that you thought would make you happy might not. You then change course til you find out what does make you happy. This is what is known as Success! The wealth thing is open to interpretation, one person might be happy living on 50K a year. Another might need 150K a year and still another 3 Million?

When you actually get a life of your own, you stop caring about other people and how they live. You get clearer about what makes you happy, your goals and dreams and what does success look like to you. You start to make a plan on how to obtain those goals. You start to think about getting a mentor that has succeeded in what you’re trying to accomplish so you don’t have to reinvent the wheel.

You get a support group that understands your dreams and doesn’t try to tear you or your dreams down. Mastermind groups are great for this. This is how one begins to make one’s dream a reality! You are not put on this planet to live out someone elses dream either. If you choose to be a martyr then that’s your choice. Life is for living!

Penny J. (MN, USA)

Raven Hawke, Llc

www.ravenhawke.net

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Game of Life

It always amazes me that we don’t get instruction booklets on how to play this game we call life.

When we play any other game there are instructions that come with it. Strategies on how to win or accumulate more of something than another player.

It always amuses me that people think that others just like to be poor and not live a better standard of life.

The people who have a higher standard of living and are actually enjoying their lives think that what they were taught is taught in a class room or in everyone’s home. Nothing could be farther than the truth. It like that game where is Waldo? Well if you don’t know what you’re looking for it can be a long, long journey. You know somethings missing. You know that others have gotten there before you but you have no idea on where that map on how to get there is.

These skills are not taught in a school, college or university. They should be but they aren’t. When you start to learn the rules of the game! Life does become so. . .  much easier. I think that classes on table manners should be taught in schools and it’s not. It is expected that you would know them already but most people don’t which is why they don’t usually go up to the next level.

There are secrets about handling money that many are not taught except by their parents. The wealthy usually think these are lessons that everyone should know but they don’t. The reason that wealthy people pass these lesson on to their children is that if they don’t the next generation will become poorer than the last and not have something to pass on to the next generation.

Most people have this vision in their head of how they think the wealthy live and then are surprised when they themselves end up broke. It is like anything the more you practice the more you learn the flaws in your thinking. It is like anything you must have a strategy on what you want and then take the steps to acquire those skills to reach those goals. Sometimes you might have more than one goal so you take baby steps to get to those goals but if one step is going to build on another you might have a mentor or coach to help you with that. This way you not wasting energy or money spinning your wheels.

Penny J.

Raven Hawke, Llc (MN, USA)

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