The journey called the “Dark Night of the Soul” is not a punishment. It is sort of a test to get you to the next level. It’s a way to get in your face, and get you to grow. Sometimes its relationships, money, jobs, housing dramas. The gifts you receive after this journey can almost seem like you’ve won the lottery.
It is a way to get you to release things, jobs, people who are no longer a match to where you are heading. This is not a judgement against those things. It’s about you growing as a person. Sometimes its about the “Shadow Work.” What exactly does that mean? It’s about taking back your personal power and not being a door mat to other people. It’s about respecting boundaries. It’s about not rescuing everyone from themselves.
It’s also about facing your dragons, demons that you’ve created for yourself. This is not about putting yourself in dangerous situations. Although, some people constantly do this and are some how oblivious to the consequences. This is about making peace with yourself. If there are things about yourself that you want to change then here is your opportunity. If there are things that others don’t like about you. You need to decide if you like or don’t like that about yourself. Everyone has a light, grey and dark side to them. This is just who we are as a whole. No one is a saint!
So as you hit rock bottom, take time to reflect and see what areas of your life you’re at peace with? Sometimes these changes come from the result of a divorce. Take responsibility for those things that are yours. The rest, let it go! Things happen to people all the time. It’s not because people are good or bad that stuff happens. So don’t judge yourself or others.
I have recently had someone come back into my life. When this person re-entered my life. I thought we will see how long this person will stay in my life. So far this person has tested my boundaries twice.
I am a firm believer that no one has a right to treat another person with disrespect. I find that people with low self esteem do this the most. Everyone has baggage but no one has a right to tape that baggage on to another person . Women are usually victimized by this the most. They also will repeat this type of abuse on to other women. Men do this too.
Any time women see another woman start to succeed it goes one of two ways. If the women have strong self esteem. They are happy for their friend and proud of her. Unfortunately, these are the examples that aren’t made into movies. Why? There’s no Drama!,The movie industry would rather make movies about bad behavior because it’s more profitable and unfortunately helps set bad examples.
The only reason, I’m so annoyed by this is that young women entering the work force view this as normal and acceptable behavior. Which keeps the cycle of abuse going. This destroys team building in a corporate setting and is destructive to many peoples self esteem.
We all have relationships in our lives. Business or personal these relationships are built on trust and respect. It still amazes me how many people don’t realize that abuse is not just about physically hitting someone. Words can also be very abusive.
In this day and age, not many schools are teaching about verbal abuse. Some more high level corporations are; only because if they ignore the situation it will start to cost them in human as well as monetary capital. This behavior destroys the creative process in an organization that thrives on innovative products.