Recently, I looked down at my fingers and noticed for the first time. A scar that had been on my fingers since I was eleven was finally gone. Which is sort of interesting since I’ve been doing a lot of house cleaning in my personal life. I had made a decision in 2006, that those family members that weren’t positive influences would have to go. I had been doing this year after year.

Finally the last few people who had to go were last year. It gets pretty easy when they’ve finally crossed the final boundary. I did notice other changes in other areas of my life as well. More opportunities coming in from different areas of my life. Some of the things are reminisce of when I was in my early 20’s.

Some people think that only soldiers suffer from post traumatic stress. The truth is that all people whether its emotional or physical scars suffer from this syndrom. Each person has to face their demons on their own terms and deal with it when they are ready.

People that think these people should just move on or not dwell on it have no clue. Certain situations can trigger these memories. Some people will get help from a trained therapist. This is one of the best things for them as long as the therapist feels comfortable for that individual.

Others choose to go it alone thinking that they can some how get a grip on it themselves. This is true for some people but not all. It takes being extremely honest with yourself. Not all people can do this. This is one of the reasons why support groups have formed to make it a safe environment for those individuals that might not be ready for therapy.

All of these changes are about taking one step at a time. It takes a lot of bravery to admit that you can’t do it alone. This doesn’t make the individual crazy. It’s a healing process that can take time. Some people will go to a therapist for a while and then take a break and come back to them when their ready again. This is perfectly normal.

I always encourage my clients to see someone that they are comfortable with. It’s a step in taking back control of your life.

Penny J. (MN, USA)

Raven Hawke, Llc







There is a lot of this lately. It’s like a sick drama that is playing out in people’s lives.

Divorce has become a blood sport.  The only winners are the Attorneys.

Where one spouse has to have the final win! Even at the expense of thousands of dollars.

One or both spouses using their children as pawns to get the final blow back at their ex-.

Never thinking, that while they are trying to slam their ex-spouse that they are really taking shots at their own children.

It’s like suddenly their children stopped being a person with feeling and rights.

This vicious competitiveness knows no boundaries.

Even the Attorneys get into the act. Egging their clients on so they can make the most money.

It seems like the only Adult is the Judge.

Even that can be short lived. Depending on whether the Judge has gone through a bitter Divorce or not?

It used to be that once a Divorce was over, it was never revisited in Court.

Now a days, its like people think they’ve won the Lottery. Instead of realizing how much this all costs.

They want to revisit it thinking they can cut a better deal.

 Some people think they have to turn on the TV or Computer to see war.

The battle fields are much closer to home.

Sometimes it’s about hitting back at someone for an imagined slight.

Other times it takes place in a work environment.

One employee wants to see how far they can go to destroy another employee.

It’s like a sick and twisted blood sport.

Sometimes the scars are visible while others are not.

We learn this type of behavior in our home life.

Movies that we watch.

I think its very interesting that we say. “Oh isn’t that terrible!”

Until the person doing it is us.

Then mysteriously we have a number of reason to justify the behavior to make ourselves right!

we love to Judge others, but we hate to hold that mirror up to ourselves.

It’s like we avoid looking into the glass for when we do, we will see ourselves looking back.

Serving: TwinCities Area

Penny J

Raven Hawke, Llc (MN, USA)