Romance

Our melting pot culture sometimes leaves much to be desired. Especially when it comes to romance; because the US’s is composed of many sub-cultures. There is no standard norms as a culture for Americans. We each bring our sub-culture norms to the table, allowing for many hurts and misunderstandings. Be it table manners? How people raise their children? How we show love and affection. The list is endless.

Men and women, have misunderstandings in general just on how they think and react to situations. Now add the sub-culture to romance and based on their own sub-cultures you can have a variety of expectations. Varying from realistic to expectations from families to romantic partners.

Is it any wonder there is a high divorce rate and lack of satisfaction with relationships in general. Depending on the culture, some people can come off as stand offish. Other’s being interpreted as overly affectionate and depending on societies trends. These cultures can be looked as acceptable or lacking based on the popularity of the trends.

There seems to be so much lack of satisfaction and judgment going on in relationships. It doesn’t seem to matter if its young couples or older couples. There seems to be such a clash of expectations in the courting ritual. It’s almost amazing when the right couples finally find each other.

The perfect romance starts in the brain and when the reality starts to clash. The end of the relationship isn’t far behind. One starts to wonder if the ideal romance isn’t some unrealistic script written off the pages in Hollywood where none of the characters could ever live up those expectations in the real world?

One starts to wonder if it is truly fate that plays a hand in matching up the two people or something else entirely.

Penny J. (MN, USA)

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The Dance Of Love

There are many types of love. There is the love across a crowded room where you can sense the other persons energy before you see them. Sounds like something out of a romance novel doesn’t it! I am constantly warning my clients about the chemistry thing in all the different love scenarios. If the other person isn’t feeling it long-term it’s a wash.

Sometimes, I think the reason why we see it in all its different nuances is so when the real deal comes we truly recognize it. If you have come from an abusive relationship or grew up in an abusive home the journey to love can be very bumpy.  All of these experiences are to teach us what love is not so that when love comes knocking you can really recognize it.

Love is not about belittling another person or slamming someone’s self-esteem into the ground. Love does not beat someone black and blue. Love is about  each person in the relationship growing and discovering new things about themselves and the other person. Celebrating your successes and failures without fear of ridicule. When two people come together they actually bring out the best in each other . They fit together like a puzzle piece that hasn’t been forced to fit. When it is a perfect match it is truly the dance of love.

Penny J.

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