Cleaning House In Our Lives

Since about September its felt as though we need to do a thorough house cleaning in our homes as well as our lives. The dusting and sweeping and shaking of rugs. In some cases it is literally dusting those cobwebs out of our house and our lives. Some of those cobwebs masquerade as concerned family and friends. Others might be nosy co-workers.

As we give those rugs a good shake and the dust and dirt fall outside. It makes our living space feel somewhat lighter. Similar to when we get rid of toxic people from our lives. We can start to think and breathe easier. Eliminating those people who don’t respect boundaries in our life, by screening calls or even blocking their phone numbers. Just as we get rid of clothing that no longer fits and letting go of relationships that been out grown.

This feeling has become stronger as we’ve gotten closer to the end of the year. Getting rid of things that we never liked. By being more true to who we are; and being someone we aren’t to please other people. Speaking up more rather than being PC. Finding our voice rather than holding on to anger and allowing it to build. Spending time to get to know yourself and find out who you really are! Instead of trying to be someone you’re not just to please others. That in and of itself is a losing battle into insanity.

Penny J. (MN, USA)

Raven Hawke, Llc

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Life

Life is like finger paints, it’s very messy sometimes. You have your ups and downs like the tides of the ocean rolling in and out. If one minute (sometimes it can be 6 years) down just realize that the tide will shift. The Universe is always pulling for you to succeed. That’s just the way it is!

When you’ve had the worst thrown at you just realize that you will see some incredibly wonderful things coming your way. Maybe it will be people, opportunities? The Universe always keeps things in balance. Just like a pendulum on a clock. The thing about life is that we get to experience a broad array of numerous emotions. Grief, sadness, anger, joy, happiness, excitement. If we didn’t every experience these things we’d be like robots, just going through the motions.

When you are going through those messy emotions, embrace them, own them and feel your way through them until you can’t feel them any more. Why? Because when you experience and feel through them and own them. You take away the power for them to turn into disease in your body. You take away the power of another person to hurt you. You also break the cycle of karma. You don’t have to come back and repeat any of the shit. Now isn’t that alone worth it! So the next time that crap comes knocking on your door. Embrace it like the best chocolate your every going to eat.

Feel into your messy emotions, like your painting a Picasso and smear all the colors till you can’t feel any more. That doesn’t mean medicate your feelings, because then you’re not participating in your own life your just avoiding it. You get zero points for avoiding life. You get 100 points for taking action to set boundaries between yourself and abusive people, situations.

When you’re at your dark night of the soul or just feeling like your life just turned into crap. Know that your about to see great things changing in your life. You just have to participate! If you have taken action, then know that something is on its way to you. Start to focus on what areas of your life are working and what do you have control of in your life that you can change.

Sometimes work situations feel like they’re on hold and you can’t move. Then look at other things that you want to change in your life. Maybe that relationship that wasn’t working needs to go? You might find that when you change that relationship that everything else starts to fall into place. Sometimes the relationship we need to change is with ourselves. How we talk to ourselves and treat ourselves?

Penny J. (MN, USA)

Raven Hawke, Llc

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http://info@ravenhawke.net

When Your Health Steps into the Picture

When your health starts making you slow down, it means that you’ve been ignoring all the subtle signs the Universe has been trying to send you. The sign that your on the right or wrong path. That stress that seemed to come right out of the blue? That indigestion that suddenly turned into a heart attack? It can be wrong eating habits. Stress from putting up with an abusive boss or co-worker that acts like Attila the Hun?

Making changes in our personal and work lives can make dramatic improvements to our health. Getting rid of toxic friends or parents can make you have a longer life span. You get zero points in life for putting up with toxic people! Some people have broken bones when they’ve refused to leave a job they hate. What usually happens then is that your employer usually lets you go.

The sooner people pay attention to things going on in their lives the sooner they can take charge. Near misses with car accidents, could mean you should let go of an abusive relationship so that something better can walk thru the door. A lot of people are so close to things that they can’t even look at anything objectively any more. Sometimes if things aren’t working in your life, you might want to take a vacation to take time to reevaluate what is or is not working in your life. It’s sort of like getting rid of clothes that no longer fit you. Your letting go of what isn’t working. If your goal was to get to A or B by this age. Is that goal still relevent? What’s changed? Have you changed? What is the new you? What fits in your new life? What doesn’t ?

People are always changing! This is a good thing, otherwise it would be a very boring existence. The health issues make you slow down to see things more clearly.

Penny J. (MN, USA)

Raven Hawke, Llc

www.ravenhawke.net

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Smoke and Mirrors

One thing I’ve noticed more and more is that it’s becoming fashionable to be racist in America.

Some leaders use it as a shield, they themselves were never a slave but they use it in the argument against another race. They refuse to take an honest look at their life and make the changes to it to become more empowered. If they don’t want to have an employer then create your own business or stair step it until you get to your ideal business.

One fact is that it’s hard for any small business to get loans or funding. Stated income will be your hardest thing to prove to even get the loan. That’s why SBA (Small Business Administration) was created to give them the funding that they need. There are more organizations, it’s just a matter of finding them.

One thing that I’ve noticed is that it’s a circus. There is no such thing as security. Those days are long gone. Our reality is that there is outsourcing. Contractors that work on a project until that project is cut or done. There aren’t that many employees in the Corporations any more. When they retire, they will either be replaced by a contractor or that position won’t be replaced at all.

Corporations are also making a lot of mistakes that will be their demise in the not to distant future. The CEO’s of these companies have never had to create a business. Most of them don’t even know how. They are taught business models. I’m pretty sure they aren’t being taught how to maintain relationships. They have such busy lives that , it’s amazing if they have a personal relationship to come home to.

They think that transparency is a surface thing. Consumers are much more sophisticated than they think. People that are lied to don’t forgive or trust easily. One of the things that is so easy to fix is to improve the machines that they’re using. Listen to they’re employee’s ideas. When you treat your employees and consumers like their disposable. You’ll soon find yourself out of business.

We have a lot of wasted human capital in this country. These people have a lot of experience under their belts that could help these giant corporations save time and money. Hopefully the smaller and middle businesses in this country aren’t so foolish. This will help them grow and stay competitive and out maneuver  these giants.

Right now it feels like all of us are being under valued and over taxed. It definitely doesn’t feel like freedom. It feels like slavery. I do think this country is going through a revolution. Revolutions don’t have to be violent, they can be powerful by making people more aware of their experiences. That doesn’t mean telling them what they’re feeling. The truth has a way of surfacing and the TRUTH is coming out loud and clear every day. It will be more evident in what businesses and organizations survive.

Penny J.

Raven Hawke, Llc (MN, USA)

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Relationships

I have recently had someone come back into my life. When this person re-entered my life. I thought we will see how long this person will stay in my life. So far this person has tested my boundaries twice.

I am a firm believer that no one has a right to treat another person with disrespect. I find that people with low self esteem do this the most. Everyone has baggage but no one has a right to tape that baggage on to another person . Women are usually victimized by this the most. They also will repeat this type of abuse on to other women. Men do this too.

Any time women see another woman start to succeed it goes one of two ways. If the women have strong self esteem. They are happy for their friend and proud of her. Unfortunately, these are the examples that aren’t made into movies. Why? There’s no Drama!,The movie industry would rather make movies about bad behavior because it’s more profitable and unfortunately helps set bad examples. 

The only reason, I’m so annoyed by this is that young women entering the work force view this as normal and acceptable behavior. Which keeps the cycle of abuse going. This destroys team building in a corporate setting and is destructive to many peoples self esteem. 

We all have relationships in our lives. Business or personal these relationships are built on trust and respect. It still amazes me how many people don’t realize that abuse is not just about physically hitting someone. Words can also be very abusive.

In this day and age, not many schools are teaching about verbal abuse. Some more high level corporations are; only because if they ignore the situation it will start to cost them in human as well as monetary capital. This behavior destroys the creative process in an organization that thrives on innovative products.

Penny J. 

Raven Hawke, Llc (MN, USA)

http://www.ravenhawke.net

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Cupid & Psyche

I always love the romantic story of these two lovers. It is not an easy path but it is beautiful all the same.

I always believe that whether your alone or with someone on Valentine’s day; you should always be treated well.

How we treat ourselves does teach others how to treat us. If  you’re not in a relationship, that’s okay. That is the perfect time to decide what you want to do for yourself on Valentine’s Day. Some people are foodies. They have one thing they must have as a meal on that day. Others love art, so maybe they love to go to art museums or buy themselves a piece of art, whether it’s a key chain or a functional piece of art. There all different ways to spend Valentine’s day so don’t limit yourself.

If you are in a relationship, this is usually the time that  will either make or break the relationship. What I mean by that, if you love the person it won’t matter how you spend you evening. If you haven’t been treated well in this relationship that will become even more obvious. Either way, you will learn something about the other person. Either you are a good fit or you are not. It isn’t worth being in a relationship were neither of you are being the real you.

A real person will accept our flaws and not keep pointing them out to us. Love is about loving the person and not about picking a person apart.

Remember it is your life and don’t settle for a person to please other people. This is your life.

May all of you have a very blessed Valentine’s day!

Penny J.

Raven Hawke, Llc (MN, USA)

http://www.ravenhawke.net

info@ravenhawke.net

The Dance Of Love

There are many types of love. There is the love across a crowded room where you can sense the other persons energy before you see them. Sounds like something out of a romance novel doesn’t it! I am constantly warning my clients about the chemistry thing in all the different love scenarios. If the other person isn’t feeling it long-term it’s a wash.

Sometimes, I think the reason why we see it in all its different nuances is so when the real deal comes we truly recognize it. If you have come from an abusive relationship or grew up in an abusive home the journey to love can be very bumpy.  All of these experiences are to teach us what love is not so that when love comes knocking you can really recognize it.

Love is not about belittling another person or slamming someone’s self-esteem into the ground. Love does not beat someone black and blue. Love is about  each person in the relationship growing and discovering new things about themselves and the other person. Celebrating your successes and failures without fear of ridicule. When two people come together they actually bring out the best in each other . They fit together like a puzzle piece that hasn’t been forced to fit. When it is a perfect match it is truly the dance of love.

Penny J.

Raven Hawke, Llc  (MN, USA)

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