Going Within

There are many of us, who have no clue who we really are? We don’t know how life works for us. What do I mean by that? Well most of us have been surrounded by others and never had a moment to intimately get to know ourselves. If you’re an empath, this can be its own kind of hell. Picking up everyone’s shit. Thinking that your depressed when your picking up on the people who live with you. Having headaches that aren’t yours.

You might have no idea what I’m talking about. Everyone should be required to live by themselves to actually get to know themselves. This means finding out what stuff is really yours and what is not. What stuff is just bleeding off another and dumping onto you. One thing, that I’ve learned is that the things I used to think were mine. Were in fact someone elses. That means facing the dark side of yourself and giving it a great big wet one.

Society, likes to shove all their dogma down our throats as though it is a fact. When really it is a form of control and shaming. A way to make people feel like shit about themselves so they won’t stand up for themselves. Won’t have more self-confidence. Once you intimately get to know yourself. You will never go back.  You learn that those parts, that you’ve been told are un-loveable are really strengths that have yet to be accepted.

When you start to accept all of who you are? You will find that you are finally becoming a whole person. That part of yourself that you wanted to eliminate will stop having its tantrums; when you finally accept it and allow it to play in more healthy ways. Sounds like parenting a child! In a way, it very much is. Reading parenting books might sound crazy but if you want to win this war that will be your best course.

This will help you integrate your shadow side, it will allow you to get to know yourself without judgement. Everyone hates to be judged, the shadow is no different. Schedule time with yourself so that you can start to allow it to heal and play. Think you’re the only one that didn’t get the manual on how the world works for you. Trying to move forward when no doors or window will open up. Many will say it’s all about taking action. If you’ve already taken many actions. Then you might want to examine what area of your life hasn’t had attention for sometime.

This answer might be about getting out in nature. It might be about actually taking time to enjoy live instead of allowing it to pass you by. When was the last time you actually played. Play isn’t only for children. After all that demon that you call your shadow didn’t just come out of no where. It came from being ignored and suppressed because it’s not acceptable. It is part of you whether you like it or not. It will come out less with less drama when it’s allowed to play more.

Play also allows you to move forward when everything else has been tried. Especially when your stuck tight and not knowing what you’re doing wrong. Play can be playing ball, listening to music, playing musical instruments. Writing, drawing or even painting. When we get out of balance our lives can suddenly seem like its hitting the pavement.

Most of us, were never taught what balance is? We only start to realize its out of control, when it starts to take on a life of its own. This is why the key is to get to know yourself so you can try to steer your life in the direction you want it to go.

Penny J. (MN, USA)

Raven Hawke, Llc

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Own Your Power

Are you passive in how you live your life or do you actively participate. There is a lot of bullshit about being PC. This is always used as a weapon to steal someone else’s personal power. It’s like a glee club, where people somehow think they have the right to tell people how to speak and be! These are the trolls that don’t like anything that could potentially upset their personal apple cart. They are the control freaks that don’t have control of their own lives but they want to control others.

I always get a kick out of people who have this false perception; that if you swear that your coming from a lower vibration or that your some how an ignorant person. This is the dogma of crap that people continuously throw at people like they are this lost waif that needs to be save and corrected. This condescending behavior that is somehow perceived as normal when it is anything but.

When you stop allowing people to dictate what you can say, feel and think. You start to take the steps needed to live your life and not someone elses. We are all sentient beings, we don’t need anyone’s permission to just be and exist. This reminds of when the devil comes up in a tarot deck. People always assume it means the worst. Nothing could be further from the truth. It mean’s you need to stop playing the victim. You need to start taking back your truth. You truth is just that your truth, not someone elses. After all this is all about your life not someone elses.

Penny J. (MN, USA)

 

When the Dead won’t rollover and Die!

Some people think it would be neat to be a psychic medium. Sometimes it can be a pain in the ass. When the dead just won’t move along and mind their own business. Like actually getting a life of their own. Oh the things they love to mess with.

Electronics come to the top of the list to name a few. Yes, the life without a body, no boundaries or restrictions. Oh and if they were a jealous person with a body, they certainly haven’t changed their tune. That’s how the ghost world works. Still ego driven.

This is why it’s such a good idea to set boundaries when these people are alive. Gives them practice for when they decide not to cross over. Gives new meaning to meddling relatives. This is where tough love comes in handy with lots of boundaries.

This is the time when it’s best to embrace your inner Badass! Being nice and soft and fluffy will not work! It’s time to push back and kick their ghostly ass to the curb that they aren’t allowed to mess with your life. Because that’s exactly what they’ll do if you don’t step up.

They’re usually bored and want some excitement in their non-lives. They are not wise in any regards. They’re just ego! The best thing that could happen to them is to cross over.

Penny J. (MN,USA)

 

 

What will you be giving up?

This time of year people think of it as a time to make a sacrifice in their life. Why not think of it as a time to purge the things or people who you’ve out grown. It might be a time to stop allowing people to dump their drama all over your life.

Yes, life happens and there are unexpected events that occur beyond our control. There are also cause and effect dramas that are not beyond Peoples control too. Instead of trying to solve everyone’s problems. See if they can’t start learning from their mistakes. These are the one’s that they caused all by themselves.

Think of it almost as parenting skills to allow a person to find their own solutions on their own journey in life. Sometimes life gets really dirty and messy too. No one learns anything when people are constantly rescuing them from themselves.

This is not to say that you shouldn’t be emotionally supportive when life throws a person a curve ball that no one expected. Sometimes these lessons are a test to help a person learn new skills or to make them emotionally stronger to survive a future event.  This does not mean the person is a bad person and that’s why these things happened to them.

Just remember everything that you’ve learned is never a waste of time. You will use it in some capacity in the future to help yourself or others.

Sometimes it companies or services that we’re forced to use that are causing us unnecessary stress and drama. If it’s a company that you work for? Maybe its time to look for a different position either inside or outside of that company. If it’s a service, you always have the right to refuse to use it. There is nothing worse than a service that consistently is not meeting it’s promises.

Caller Id like voice mail is designed as a tool to weed out unnecessary calls. Weed out is the key word here. If your goal is to have more peace in your life your going to have to weed that garden sometime. You will be amazed at how much more peaceful and enjoyable your life becomes.

Penny J (MN, USA)

Valentine’s Day

Time to reflect, time to check in and see if your life is the way you want it. If not, don’t panic! You call the shots and you can make changes. This is the perfect day to plan your fantasy day! If your single it’s all about you!!

If you’re in a relationship, it’s a nice time to do romantic or spontaneous things for each other on that day! Each person can help plan what they want to do on that day or not. Think as it as a journey or destination.

Every person has a different idea of what’s romantic or fun! You get to make the rules and have lots of fun on this day. Entertainment unfortunately needs to be planned out sometimes depending on what that means to you. If you weren’t able to do it this year there is always next year.

Plays, concerts, art museums are some fun ideas for some.  Watching that favorite movie and planning a delicious meal are other ways to indulge. What will be your next destination?

Theater is always interesting, especially if it’s a classic where it is imitating the realities of current life. Music and art can be entertainment of the senses.

Whatever you do, make sure to take some time for yourself!

Penny J (MN, USA)

 

 

Life

Life is like finger paints, it’s very messy sometimes. You have your ups and downs like the tides of the ocean rolling in and out. If one minute (sometimes it can be 6 years) down just realize that the tide will shift. The Universe is always pulling for you to succeed. That’s just the way it is!

When you’ve had the worst thrown at you just realize that you will see some incredibly wonderful things coming your way. Maybe it will be people, opportunities? The Universe always keeps things in balance. Just like a pendulum on a clock. The thing about life is that we get to experience a broad array of numerous emotions. Grief, sadness, anger, joy, happiness, excitement. If we didn’t every experience these things we’d be like robots, just going through the motions.

When you are going through those messy emotions, embrace them, own them and feel your way through them until you can’t feel them any more. Why? Because when you experience and feel through them and own them. You take away the power for them to turn into disease in your body. You take away the power of another person to hurt you. You also break the cycle of karma. You don’t have to come back and repeat any of the shit. Now isn’t that alone worth it! So the next time that crap comes knocking on your door. Embrace it like the best chocolate your every going to eat.

Feel into your messy emotions, like your painting a Picasso and smear all the colors till you can’t feel any more. That doesn’t mean medicate your feelings, because then you’re not participating in your own life your just avoiding it. You get zero points for avoiding life. You get 100 points for taking action to set boundaries between yourself and abusive people, situations.

When you’re at your dark night of the soul or just feeling like your life just turned into crap. Know that your about to see great things changing in your life. You just have to participate! If you have taken action, then know that something is on its way to you. Start to focus on what areas of your life are working and what do you have control of in your life that you can change.

Sometimes work situations feel like they’re on hold and you can’t move. Then look at other things that you want to change in your life. Maybe that relationship that wasn’t working needs to go? You might find that when you change that relationship that everything else starts to fall into place. Sometimes the relationship we need to change is with ourselves. How we talk to ourselves and treat ourselves?

Penny J. (MN, USA)

Raven Hawke, Llc

http://www.ravenhawke.net

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When Your Health Steps into the Picture

When your health starts making you slow down, it means that you’ve been ignoring all the subtle signs the Universe has been trying to send you. The sign that your on the right or wrong path. That stress that seemed to come right out of the blue? That indigestion that suddenly turned into a heart attack? It can be wrong eating habits. Stress from putting up with an abusive boss or co-worker that acts like Attila the Hun?

Making changes in our personal and work lives can make dramatic improvements to our health. Getting rid of toxic friends or parents can make you have a longer life span. You get zero points in life for putting up with toxic people! Some people have broken bones when they’ve refused to leave a job they hate. What usually happens then is that your employer usually lets you go.

The sooner people pay attention to things going on in their lives the sooner they can take charge. Near misses with car accidents, could mean you should let go of an abusive relationship so that something better can walk thru the door. A lot of people are so close to things that they can’t even look at anything objectively any more. Sometimes if things aren’t working in your life, you might want to take a vacation to take time to reevaluate what is or is not working in your life. It’s sort of like getting rid of clothes that no longer fit you. Your letting go of what isn’t working. If your goal was to get to A or B by this age. Is that goal still relevent? What’s changed? Have you changed? What is the new you? What fits in your new life? What doesn’t ?

People are always changing! This is a good thing, otherwise it would be a very boring existence. The health issues make you slow down to see things more clearly.

Penny J. (MN, USA)

Raven Hawke, Llc

www.ravenhawke.net

info@ravenhawke.net