Clients I Work With

I work with clients from all walks of life. I like to help my clients become empowered by taking back their personal power. That means that sometimes they take baby steps or giant steps at setting boundaries. They stop saying yes to things they really don’t want to do. They start to standup for themselves and allow themselves to voice how they feel or they stop taking calls from abusive people.

People who love drama and playing the starring role of the victim are not my clients. I am not about manipulative people. If you have an agenda, you can keep on walking.

I give homework to my clients. Yes, I said homework! If some of the issues you are dealing with require a Therapist. I fully encourage my clients to find one that fits them. Everyone at one time or another needs to see one to help them sort out Life! This in no way means your crazy. It means you need help finding the steps to regain control of your life at this moment. This is being REAL! Anyone that would judge a person for seeing a Therapist or a Psychic maybe needs to get a life of their own.

I will recommend a practitioner if they do a modality that I don’t do. If you mesh with that person great, if not that’s ok. I don’t take it personally. I just want my client to find a person that works for them.

Penny J. (MN, USA)

Raven Hawke, Llc

www.ravenhawke.net

info@ravenhawke.net

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Changes I’ve Noticed

I’ve noticed more positive changes even from last year. Nicer people have entered my life! Working with different people that are more positive. Seeing more team work, with the people I work with. People’s confidence coming up. Seeing less jerks enter my life. All in all, I’m definitely liking this year even more than last year. Last year, I saw more progress than I did in the year before and the year before that.

Each year, I am seeing more lasting changes take hold longer and longer. People that aren’t in alignment with who I am are leaving or being moved around. I’m actually enjoying the different types of work that I do more and more. I have people around me that respect and appreciate the value I add. I’m in a really good place.  I am standing up for myself more and more and honoring those things about myself that come very naturally to me and not trying to fit into a mold that is just not me.

I’ve never been a people pleaser and I’m embracing that about myself. I’m not being judged by other people. I’m being more and more true to myself. I’m embracing my directness, instead of trying to figure out what people that beat around the bush mean. I ask them directly and ask them to be direct when they are speaking with me since that is my true communication style. It avoids a lot of misunderstandings and hurt feeling for the other person.

Sometimes it’s good to take a measure of your life to see what’s working and getting better and what is just not working.

Penny J.

Raven Hawke, Llc (MN, USA).

http://www.ravenhawke.net

info@ravenhawke.net

 

 

 

Divorce

There is nothing uglier than the ending of a marriage. It can be very brutal, anything you thought you knew about the person you were married are quickly dispelled.

It’s like a declaration of WAR! The gloves quickly come off and the rules get thrown out the window. If your one of those fortunate to not have had a divorce like that. I say you are truly blessed to have had a divorce that was civilized and without punches. Especially if you have children involved in the divorce process.

Many are not so lucky! If you didn’t have children or pets to fight over in the divorce process you are still lucky even though the process was HELL!

Divorce, brings out the very worst in any human being. It is raw and vulnerable. Divorces that involve children are one of the worst. It’s like watching a boxing match. Very brutal! The casualties are usually the children that are being fought over in the divorce.

This WAR usually does not end with the custody battle. If it did that would be more merciful! No it continues into the Child Support and Parenting Issues. Each parent trying to strike back at the other for imagined or real hurts.

They often lose sight of the child, when they fight over the child support money. The child quickly gets lost in all of this. It’s almost like a game of Chess and the child or children quickly become treated like the inanimate pawns of the game. No thought is ever given to the children when one parent takes a verbal swing at the other in front of that child.

The verbal wounds still draw blood. Maybe you can’t see the blood you’ve drawn, because that child is bleeding inside. These wounds still go very deep. For children that have lived through domestic violence and watched the horror one one parent beating the shit out of the other parent. It magnifies when the other parent threatens to murder the other parent over alimony or child support in front of the child these are only horrors that some can only imagine. For the rest that have lived through it. It makes marriage and divorce look like a living hell!

This is why the Judge, pulls both parents aside and asks them to remember their children; because parenting is a live time it doesn’t end with the Divorce.

Penny J.

Raven Hawke, Llc (MN, USA)

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http://www.ravenhawke.net

info@ravenhawke.net