Next time your feeling like shit about your life. Take a deep breath and focus on your victories. You are on your own unique journey. No one can do it for you. It is about you growing and discovering things about your life that like and those things that you don’t. It is not about being shamed and being make to feel less than.
After all no one has a right to do that. They have not walked in your shoes or experienced any of those things that have made you uniquely you! Stop comparing yourself to others and don’t allow others to compare to other people either. You are here to live your life for you and not someone else.
Remember to start enforcing boundaries. Boundaries are our friend. They are to keep out those sacks of shit that have no business in our lives. Boundaries help us to decide if we still want those people in our lives and to them that their behavior will not be tolerated.
These roads and journeys will teach us about ourselves in ways we would never had the opportunity to before. It allows us to breath and grow. We learn how to adult and how to keep parts of our child self alive to nurture our creativity. It allows us to play and explore new and old things. It gives us opportunites to stretch ourselves and find out how strong we really are inside.
Along this journey, we will laugh and cry. We will meet new people and decide who to keep as friends. Who we will let go of so they can grow on their journey. Sometimes our paths will cross briefly. People will enter our lives, who will teach us things. Sometimes we will have things to share with them.
Life is a smoregasboard, so take advantage of the buffet. It’s there to be enjoyed. Then finally you will make it to the destination that you thought; you’d never reach!
I mention this because, some people are all about using vision boards, pinterest or making a list. It all works, there have been several times I’ve made a list of things that I wanted to create for my house? Neighborhood? and more! All of these have come to pass!
Crazy things like moving a meter in the house, changes in the neighborhood. Magic and the Universe are all around you. With people setting Goals for the New Year! The sky’s the limit. Anything you can imagine, you can create! So stop thinking small! You might want to go to places that make you feel happy and excited. It’s about changing how you feel and how you think! It’s very much like planting seeds! Make sure you keep this in mind. It will make it much more easier for you to bring it forward into your life.
One last thing, you still have to take action. What does that mean? It means you have to participate in your own life. When you get push back from the Universe pay attention. This will usually happen more than once. When that happens, pay attention? Is it trying to warn you that you might not what to put your money in the money market fund or bonds, stock? These are very real scenarios. Life isn’t all about logic!
If it appears that what you’ve put on your list hasn’t come forward yet. Don’t count it out just yet. It might be it’s no longer in alignment with who you are? It might be coming in an unexpected way. Also be open-minded, sometimes things on our list are gifts. Sometimes they will be provided in another way. If you life is in the shit hole, it might be because your about to get bigger and better changes coming into your life.
When you take action, it starts to get things moving. If you’re in a situation where you can’t take action. The situation will resolve itself in some way. You will either be removed from the situation or the other people or situation will be removed. If you’re not able to make a change. Look at your life and see where else your not happy. If by changing that situation, if your able too. It will start a domino effect and other things will start to change as well. These are the easiest ways to start to take back your power in your life.
The gifts can be quite humbling, but its whats needed for you to grow on a personal level. So write out what you’re trying to achieve or where you want to go. The map will be provided in time as you start to put one foot in front of the other on your own personal journey.
When was the last time you paid attention to your surroundings. Do you hear something, that seems very normal and assume that everyone is hearing it? You might be surprised to know that it’s actually coming from the spirit realm and not the physical reality. Those that are aware will finally figure it out. Others will hear nothing since your so locked into the everyday survival of life’s demands.
Those that are into self-improvement or spiritual matters might start to see and hear the signs that the Universe is sending out. Signs as subtle as certain birds or insects. Everything has a message. Paying attention to your journey, is it easy or is it like slogging through mud? Does it feel light or heavy. These are important signs to pay attention too.
Some of them is reclaiming your abundance and prosperity. You either consciously or unconsciously shut it off. We are more powerful than we’ve ever been told. It’s about actually getting into your personal space and reclaiming your personal power. By removing yourself from abusive situations or work environments. You are taking steps to reclaim your power.
Removing not genuine people from our lives. It’s about finding the path that leads to your own self growth. Not about asking or forcing others on journeys that are not a match for them. After all paths eventually lead to the same end. Sometimes its the journey that teaches us the most. Don’t always be in such a hurry to get to the destination. The journey is not always a field trip for all. Sometimes it more personalized for the journey of one. It is a very customized learning program for yourself. More intimate than class room learning.
So start your journey one step at a time. Sometimes its one step, other times its many. Just be sure to not compare yourself to others. They aren’t you and you aren’t them. This is not about winning or competing. It’s about doing something personal for yourself. Enjoy the journey.
The journey called the “Dark Night of the Soul” is not a punishment. It is sort of a test to get you to the next level. It’s a way to get in your face, and get you to grow. Sometimes its relationships, money, jobs, housing dramas. The gifts you receive after this journey can almost seem like you’ve won the lottery.
It is a way to get you to release things, jobs, people who are no longer a match to where you are heading. This is not a judgement against those things. It’s about you growing as a person. Sometimes its about the “Shadow Work.” What exactly does that mean? It’s about taking back your personal power and not being a door mat to other people. It’s about respecting boundaries. It’s about not rescuing everyone from themselves.
It’s also about facing your dragons, demons that you’ve created for yourself. This is not about putting yourself in dangerous situations. Although, some people constantly do this and are some how oblivious to the consequences. This is about making peace with yourself. If there are things about yourself that you want to change then here is your opportunity. If there are things that others don’t like about you. You need to decide if you like or don’t like that about yourself. Everyone has a light, grey and dark side to them. This is just who we are as a whole. No one is a saint!
So as you hit rock bottom, take time to reflect and see what areas of your life you’re at peace with? Sometimes these changes come from the result of a divorce. Take responsibility for those things that are yours. The rest, let it go! Things happen to people all the time. It’s not because people are good or bad that stuff happens. So don’t judge yourself or others.
Bringing in the life you want can be like driving a stick shift. If you’re faking your calmness but not really feeling it. You might be close but just not in gear yet. When you’re in that inner peace calm. You know that things are coming your way. The Universe has your back and you will not fall into that panic freaked out state.
By being in that inner peace of calm, you are staying grounded so that you can accept the good things that will be manifesting soon in your life. This calm is a guidance that your on the right path. When you lose this calm for longer than a day or two. Back track to see where you lost that calm feeling? When your fearful, your on the wrong path or you might have missed your turn on the road.
It’s harder to make changes for the positive when you’re in chaos mode. You will notice more of what you didn’t want coming into being. Even if you have to go to a library to find that calm or a museum. The pay off is worth it! By having more and more moments of calm in your life it will allow you to start to shift the things in your life more easily.
When your committed to healthier changes, you will start to see doors opening up to you that were closed before. In some cases it will be like pebbles showing you the path that you weren’t able to see before. Once you’ve reached one goal it will seem as if more steps building upon each other to get you to the next goal if its achievable in a short time? I say achievable, because if you need to learn more things to reach the next step. It might seem as if the next step is just a little bit out of reach.
Once you are ready for more and more steps the changes will fall into place a lot more easily. Pay attention to the details, each goal might have more or fewer steps. Sometimes, it’s all about the journey and not the destination. Things that can seem as if they are failures might be the stepping-stones we needed to show us that we didn’t really want that path at all.
Tonight I was thinking about a very weird spiritual experience I had in my early twenties. It was around 4 am, because all the fun things happen around that time. I was in bed sleeping and when I felt my hair blowing and standing on edge. I could feel this arctic cold blast of air blowing. The thing was, this air was coming from an inside wall. I remember becoming fully awake and being terrified of where this air was blowing from. I tried to breathe as quietly as possible. My hair was blowing and standing on edge. I had goose bumps on my air with fear.
I remember hearing in my head the golden key. Hears where the real irony comes in. In 2006 I renamed my business from Tarot by Penny to Raven Hawke. I renamed it because I was adding healing to my business. I also kept seeing a raven and hawk together over and over. I took this as a sign to be the new name for my business. I soon had to think of a mission statement. I then decided to name it “Spiritual Change for Positive Growth”. For whatever reason, I decided to look up what the golden key meant. There are several stories and meanings. It is very ironic that two stories each have a part of the mission statement.
Who knew, I’d name it after different aspects of the golden key? I had a similar experience with one of my paintings. In 2015 I was painting Nefertiti in water colors. I couldn’t think how to spell her name at the time when I was titleing the painting; so I just settled on signing it Beauty. Later when I looked up her name, it means beauty.
I will say that being on a spiritual journey is never dull. It will be challenging and you will sometimes wish you had a manual. This journey is unique to you and you alone. That’s why sometimes our paths are meant to be walked alone. This is about getting to know yourself and knowing Spirit on a personal level. These are things, that religion can never truly teach you.
Your are never being judged on this journey! There is no pass/fail? This is your personal journey to allow yourself to grow and learn. There is no right or wrong decision-making. It is about getting more comfortable in your own skin. It is making the best decisions at the time for you. After all who else could you be? This is your journey and it does not ask permission or acceptance. It is about making it the best journey for you. It’s about finding peace within yourself.
You are given some pretty incredible gifts. You reach out to someone who has come to mind to find out they needed your help. This is what makes this business very rewarding. It is the helping of people or fellow practitioners. Sometimes you will find that you’re helping your tribe that has a problem they don’t know how to solve. It makes all those classes that you were chasing down when you were trying to act normal and busy running from yourself.
Our world is changing and becoming more accepting and yet judgemental in other ways. This journey of finding out who we are and what we’re all about. This journey can be exciting one minute and scary the next. The forced vacations are about you and your clients. You will never be able to fully help your clients until you’re at your best. We as practitioners give to the point that we almost have nothing left to give. By taking time, to explore and play. We have more energy to bring to the table.
Nothing is more rewarding when a client or another practitioner tell you how much you helped them. This is not an easy journey. Sometimes it can feel like torture to focus on relaxing. It has become so foreign to us that we tend to feel guilty. Only other practitioners can understand the inner struggle. This time that we take for ourselves allows us a chance to explore and grow. It bring more inner calm back to the soul.
This is the gift we bring to our clients is the inner calm for their souls. Be it in a reading or a healing or both. These journeys are healing for both the client and the practitioner that help them grow more on a spiritual level. Be selfish and heal. This your time to rejuvenate.