Is This Your’s or Mine?

One of the things that can be frustrating as an empath is the emotions that others start throwing around. Once you get better at discerning whose they are? It makes it much more easier to detach. Part of the learning curve is identifying if it belongs to a living or non-living person.

Just as living people have a certain smell that reminds you of them. They also have signature emotions too. If a relative used to be sad all the time you might need a visual cue. If your an empath, you will remember what it felt like to be around that person. For young children or teenagers, they might not even know what they’re feeling.

In our society, its so frowned down upon to express your feelings and emotions; depending on your family background. It usually isn’t until you live on your own that you begin to realize that those emotions might not have been yours. I remember having a client who was having a terrible headache. It wasn’t until I realized it wasn’t mine that the headache stopped for me.

Unfortunately, if only this was the case with the dead. Especially when they’re trying to communicate how they died. If they were dismembered it really isn’t fun. It’s only once you’ve finally confirmed some facts about the deceased that the feeling finally goes away. For young children and teens, if friend or family member has died and suffered from suicidial behavior or anxiety and is hanging around them. It can make these children start to feel these emotions.

It’s often why there might be one suicide after another in teens and very sensitive individuals. They can mistake those feelings for their own. The deceased person, doesn’t realize that they’re triggering this emotion in the living. They are usually just trying to not feel so lost. Because of churches protocal on suicide, it hasn’t helped either. Many who have committed suicide are afraid to cross over for fear of what awaits them on the other side.

This is why it’s so important for individuals to learn what their actual emotions and state of mind actually feels like. Usually this doesn’t happen until they are living alone if they ever do? Going on a personal retreat can be a growing experience. It will allow you to actually take the time to get to know yourself.

Penny J (MN, USA)

Raven Hawke, Llc

info@ravenhawke.net

www.ravenhawke.net

 

 

 

 

 

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Going Within

There are many of us, who have no clue who we really are? We don’t know how life works for us. What do I mean by that? Well most of us have been surrounded by others and never had a moment to intimately get to know ourselves. If you’re an empath, this can be its own kind of hell. Picking up everyone’s shit. Thinking that your depressed when your picking up on the people who live with you. Having headaches that aren’t yours.

You might have no idea what I’m talking about. Everyone should be required to live by themselves to actually get to know themselves. This means finding out what stuff is really yours and what is not. What stuff is just bleeding off another and dumping onto you. One thing, that I’ve learned is that the things I used to think were mine. Were in fact someone elses. That means facing the dark side of yourself and giving it a great big wet one.

Society, likes to shove all their dogma down our throats as though it is a fact. When really it is a form of control and shaming. A way to make people feel like shit about themselves so they won’t stand up for themselves. Won’t have more self-confidence. Once you intimately get to know yourself. You will never go back.  You learn that those parts, that you’ve been told are un-loveable are really strengths that have yet to be accepted.

When you start to accept all of who you are? You will find that you are finally becoming a whole person. That part of yourself that you wanted to eliminate will stop having its tantrums; when you finally accept it and allow it to play in more healthy ways. Sounds like parenting a child! In a way, it very much is. Reading parenting books might sound crazy but if you want to win this war that will be your best course.

This will help you integrate your shadow side, it will allow you to get to know yourself without judgement. Everyone hates to be judged, the shadow is no different. Schedule time with yourself so that you can start to allow it to heal and play. Think you’re the only one that didn’t get the manual on how the world works for you. Trying to move forward when no doors or window will open up. Many will say it’s all about taking action. If you’ve already taken many actions. Then you might want to examine what area of your life hasn’t had attention for sometime.

This answer might be about getting out in nature. It might be about actually taking time to enjoy live instead of allowing it to pass you by. When was the last time you actually played. Play isn’t only for children. After all that demon that you call your shadow didn’t just come out of no where. It came from being ignored and suppressed because it’s not acceptable. It is part of you whether you like it or not. It will come out less with less drama when it’s allowed to play more.

Play also allows you to move forward when everything else has been tried. Especially when your stuck tight and not knowing what you’re doing wrong. Play can be playing ball, listening to music, playing musical instruments. Writing, drawing or even painting. When we get out of balance our lives can suddenly seem like its hitting the pavement.

Most of us, were never taught what balance is? We only start to realize its out of control, when it starts to take on a life of its own. This is why the key is to get to know yourself so you can try to steer your life in the direction you want it to go.

Penny J. (MN, USA)

Raven Hawke, Llc

info@ravenhawke.net

http://www.ravenhawke.net