Are You Good At Receiving?

When did the money or prosperity dry up in your life? Was it when you were a child? Teen? Adult? Did you start to shut it down when you met a person? All of us are born into prosperity. It’s our birthright, the Universe doesn’t pick and choose who to dole that out to. You can be born into a family that isn’t prosperous. When did people start taking away your money. Pay close attention to this question. It has meaning. Money is energy and in this time it is power. It is a form of your personal power.

It’s no accident, that abusers target anything that means personal empowerment for you. This can happen in the family dynamics or personal relationships. Sometimes both. Psychology teaches us that abusers, beat down their victims mentally, physically and emotionally. Spirit has been on me to write this, it was a matter of what exactly to write and how. Many victims leave abusive relationships, be they family or work. It usually comes down to what is the last straw? What line is being crossed and then they will find the will power and strength that they never knew they had.

Sometimes its about having a good therapist on the sidelines to cheer you on. It can finally give you the strength to believe in yourself. When you start to take back your personal power the Universe will start to help you more and more. It will give you bread crumbs at first. If you can listen carefully. The Universe does not shout, it whispers after all you have free will. It will give you subtle nudges. People will give or offer things to you. You just have to be open to receiving. It will also let you know who has agendas and who does not.

Yes, there actually are people in this world who offer things to people with no strings attached. Hard to believe, isn’t it! Just as you give to people who you truly want to give too. This is not about guilt! If you have someone asking for a handout and you don’t want to give to them. DON’T! It’s being true to yourself. This is not about shaming or guilting. Churches are very good at manipulation, they’ve had lots of practice. Don’t let anyone guilt or shame you. Once you take back your personal power, you become stronger as an individual. You become self-confident, you stop listening to gossip that is destructive to another person and yourself. You start to look at what you can create for yourself.

When you start to allow yourself to receive great things start to open up for you. Opportunities, meeting great people and your friends will change; because your starting to grow as a person. The key is to get rid of people who like to tear you down even if their family. Start taking those classes that you’ve always wanted to take. Even if its only baby steps. By changing and growing you bring in new experiences that make you a much better person. It is about balancing the giving and receiving. If you’ve done all that, but your still going through hell. It’s not necessarily karma. It’s about finding out, when you started to shut down your prosperity.

We shut down our prosperity, out of self-preservation sometimes. We might be surrounded by jealous and petty people who get off on picking apart other people. This is true if you always found money or things just always fell into your lap without any effort. When did that start to change for you?

Penny J. (MN, USA)

Raven Hawke, Llc

info@ravenhawke.net 

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Going Within

There are many of us, who have no clue who we really are? We don’t know how life works for us. What do I mean by that? Well most of us have been surrounded by others and never had a moment to intimately get to know ourselves. If you’re an empath, this can be its own kind of hell. Picking up everyone’s shit. Thinking that your depressed when your picking up on the people who live with you. Having headaches that aren’t yours.

You might have no idea what I’m talking about. Everyone should be required to live by themselves to actually get to know themselves. This means finding out what stuff is really yours and what is not. What stuff is just bleeding off another and dumping onto you. One thing, that I’ve learned is that the things I used to think were mine. Were in fact someone elses. That means facing the dark side of yourself and giving it a great big wet one.

Society, likes to shove all their dogma down our throats as though it is a fact. When really it is a form of control and shaming. A way to make people feel like shit about themselves so they won’t stand up for themselves. Won’t have more self-confidence. Once you intimately get to know yourself. You will never go back.  You learn that those parts, that you’ve been told are un-loveable are really strengths that have yet to be accepted.

When you start to accept all of who you are? You will find that you are finally becoming a whole person. That part of yourself that you wanted to eliminate will stop having its tantrums; when you finally accept it and allow it to play in more healthy ways. Sounds like parenting a child! In a way, it very much is. Reading parenting books might sound crazy but if you want to win this war that will be your best course.

This will help you integrate your shadow side, it will allow you to get to know yourself without judgement. Everyone hates to be judged, the shadow is no different. Schedule time with yourself so that you can start to allow it to heal and play. Think you’re the only one that didn’t get the manual on how the world works for you. Trying to move forward when no doors or window will open up. Many will say it’s all about taking action. If you’ve already taken many actions. Then you might want to examine what area of your life hasn’t had attention for sometime.

This answer might be about getting out in nature. It might be about actually taking time to enjoy live instead of allowing it to pass you by. When was the last time you actually played. Play isn’t only for children. After all that demon that you call your shadow didn’t just come out of no where. It came from being ignored and suppressed because it’s not acceptable. It is part of you whether you like it or not. It will come out less with less drama when it’s allowed to play more.

Play also allows you to move forward when everything else has been tried. Especially when your stuck tight and not knowing what you’re doing wrong. Play can be playing ball, listening to music, playing musical instruments. Writing, drawing or even painting. When we get out of balance our lives can suddenly seem like its hitting the pavement.

Most of us, were never taught what balance is? We only start to realize its out of control, when it starts to take on a life of its own. This is why the key is to get to know yourself so you can try to steer your life in the direction you want it to go.

Penny J. (MN, USA)

Raven Hawke, Llc

info@ravenhawke.net

http://www.ravenhawke.net

 

 

 

Trying New Things?

There is nothing wrong with trying new things as long as it’s not triggering anxiety. If you’re trying something way out of your comfort zone. You might want to evaluate if it’s just the learning curve or if there financial risk that’s associated with it.

If you already have the foundation in place that’s one thing. If you don’t have any of the skill sets and its unfamiliar territory. Maybe its time to take a step back and not venture into this venture.

Trying new things should never cause severe anxiety attacks. If it does your not on the right track. Always listen to your inner guidance. It’s there for a reason. New things, should give you excitement or a calmness. These are internal gauges to know if your just spreading your wings a bit.

The advice from many books about, how if you don’t understand something. Don’t invest in it is a very wise one. If your going to try something out of your comfort zone, do it in baby steps. This way with each step you are building your confidence and not jumping off a cliff. There are so many ways we each can grow as a person each day. This growth can come in learning, reading or experiencing something new.

Make a list and mark it one through ten. One being easy or in your personal comfort zone. Ten being a bit of a stretch for you. The tenth one might be broken down into bite size pieces until can accomplish it with ease.

Penny J. (MN, USA)

Raven Hawke, Llc

info@ravenhawke.net

http://www.ravenhawke.net

 

Romance

Our melting pot culture sometimes leaves much to be desired. Especially when it comes to romance; because the US’s is composed of many sub-cultures. There is no standard norms as a culture for Americans. We each bring our sub-culture norms to the table, allowing for many hurts and misunderstandings. Be it table manners? How people raise their children? How we show love and affection. The list is endless.

Men and women, have misunderstandings in general just on how they think and react to situations. Now add the sub-culture to romance and based on their own sub-cultures you can have a variety of expectations. Varying from realistic to expectations from families to romantic partners.

Is it any wonder there is a high divorce rate and lack of satisfaction with relationships in general. Depending on the culture, some people can come off as stand offish. Other’s being interpreted as overly affectionate and depending on societies trends. These cultures can be looked as acceptable or lacking based on the popularity of the trends.

There seems to be so much lack of satisfaction and judgment going on in relationships. It doesn’t seem to matter if its young couples or older couples. There seems to be such a clash of expectations in the courting ritual. It’s almost amazing when the right couples finally find each other.

The perfect romance starts in the brain and when the reality starts to clash. The end of the relationship isn’t far behind. One starts to wonder if the ideal romance isn’t some unrealistic script written off the pages in Hollywood where none of the characters could ever live up those expectations in the real world?

One starts to wonder if it is truly fate that plays a hand in matching up the two people or something else entirely.

Penny J. (MN, USA)

Valentine’s Day

The Card companies would make you think that they created this day to be thoughtful to other people. The same for the rest of the retail industry with their spin on it.

Whether your coupled up or not. Be sure to enjoy or own this day just for you. This day is special, because it’s a celebration of taking time for yourself and making this day your own. You get to decide how you will spend it.

Just make sure that you have fun and go the extra mile for yourself. If you have pets it makes it the perfect day to spend sometime just enjoying the time you spend with them and doing nice things for yourself that you might not usually do.

Society seems to think that it some how has the right to make people feel like shit about themselves. When people think about doing something nice for themselves it’s usually accompanied by guilt. This day is not about asking for permission. It’s about just doing things, because you want to and not having to explain or justify your choices!

So take some time to plan or be spontaneous and see how your day unfolds.

Penny J (MN, USA)

 

 

 

Personal Victories

All of us have goals or things that we want to do some day? It’s those moments, that you finally achieve them and are really happy or you come to the realization that what was all the Hoop La about? It might be because we realize we were really chasing someone else’s dream for acceptance.  When you really own your victories, it lets you know that other thing are within reach as well.

In some cases that bucket list is starting to get whittled away at. It’s like looking at a Rolodex of our life and gauging where we’re at and how far we’ve come and how far we’ve yet to go. Sometimes its a feeling that we are finally ready for one of those things on our list that never quite felt right before now. The Universe, can also be a pain in the ass too. Where nothing seems to line up to allow you to take the next step to complete the final piece of the task.

The nice part about these victories is that they’re yours. No one can ever take them away from you! It’s not about people pleasing. It’s about testing and pleasing yourself for your personal growth as a person. Sometimes we like what we’ve become and other times not so much. We are almost like our own person clay. We can always recreate ourselves and change what we don’t like. Whether it be ourselves, home, lives, career or friends.

We are either a completed piece of art or a work in progress depending on how we choose to look at ourselves!

Penny J.

Raven Hawke, Llc (MN, USA)

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Happiness

Happiness has been touted as something outside of one’s self . It tries to get us to believe that we are these helpless victims and that if we’re lucky we will find happiness. What a bunch of crap!

I recently had a client, who really believed that he needed this one person to complete him and find happiness. If this client had been a woman, people would describe this as the prince charming trap. A lot of religions promote this mentality as well. This is why so many people are unhappy.

Part of learning about happiness is about learning about yourself! Who you are? Who you are not? Who do you want to be? Learning that being selfish can in fact be a very good thing, it helps you set up boundaries! It helps you to say no to things that you don’t want to do. It help you to grow and discover new things. It helps you to take back your personal power!

I always get a kick out of people who freak out over Tarot decks. The two cards they usually go nuts over are the Devil  and the Death card. The Devil is the best one to get, it usually reminds you that you need to stop giving away your personal power and stop playing the starring role as the victim! It’s about set boundaries, be it with family, friends or co-workers. It actually gets you to finally participate in your own life. It helps you to move out of being stuck and unhappy. It allows you to let go of friends that aren’t where you’re at right now. This is in no way a rejection or a judgement on them. If your paths are meant to cross in the future they will.

Now to the Death card, people always assume this card means that someone is going to die! Well yes and no! It is the ending of how they’re life has been up to this point. It is the new beginning for how they want to move they’re life forward.  Examples: Single person is getting married. It is the death of they’re single life and the beginning of they’re married life. The Death card is a blessing since it means that there is a new beginning coming.

Happiness is within all of us, it was never outside of us. I’m not going to say this is a mind-set. It is actually about self discovery and uncovering or pulling back the layers on yourself and finding those great things about yourself that you love and like. This is not about someone’s opinion of your or they’re judgement of you. They don’t get to have a say in this! Why? Because this is not they’re life! If your constantly surrounded by people who tear you apart or toxic people. You might need to start cleaning house. Caller Id is our best friend and so is voice mail, start screening those calls. These are the best ways to get rid of toxic people if your lousy at boundaries.

You will start to notice the more these people aren’t in your life, the better you start to feel. You will finally find out what it feels like to be calm. Most people find out that they’re less depressed. Once you find that calmness and inner peace you will never let someone take that from you again. Surprise that is what happiness is! Being at peace with yourself whether you have someone in your life or not. It about not having Drama in your face 24 x 7.

Unfortunately, they didn’t do a movie about this! Why? It wouldn’t sell! So start taking life one day at a time and start seeing how you start to feel. Oh and be sure to hit the off button on the cell phone it allows for sometime to yourself that you’re not being tracked down by the electronic age.

Penny J.

Raven Hawke, Llc (MN, USA)

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