Happiness

Happiness has been touted as something outside of one’s self . It tries to get us to believe that we are these helpless victims and that if we’re lucky we will find happiness. What a bunch of crap!

I recently had a client, who really believed that he needed this one person to complete him and find happiness. If this client had been a woman, people would describe this as the prince charming trap. A lot of religions promote this mentality as well. This is why so many people are unhappy.

Part of learning about happiness is about learning about yourself! Who you are? Who you are not? Who do you want to be? Learning that being selfish can in fact be a very good thing, it helps you set up boundaries! It helps you to say no to things that you don’t want to do. It help you to grow and discover new things. It helps you to take back your personal power!

I always get a kick out of people who freak out over Tarot decks. The two cards they usually go nuts over are the Devil  and the Death card. The Devil is the best one to get, it usually reminds you that you need to stop giving away your personal power and stop playing the starring role as the victim! It’s about set boundaries, be it with family, friends or co-workers. It actually gets you to finally participate in your own life. It helps you to move out of being stuck and unhappy. It allows you to let go of friends that aren’t where you’re at right now. This is in no way a rejection or a judgement on them. If your paths are meant to cross in the future they will.

Now to the Death card, people always assume this card means that someone is going to die! Well yes and no! It is the ending of how they’re life has been up to this point. It is the new beginning for how they want to move they’re life forward.  Examples: Single person is getting married. It is the death of they’re single life and the beginning of they’re married life. The Death card is a blessing since it means that there is a new beginning coming.

Happiness is within all of us, it was never outside of us. I’m not going to say this is a mind-set. It is actually about self discovery and uncovering or pulling back the layers on yourself and finding those great things about yourself that you love and like. This is not about someone’s opinion of your or they’re judgement of you. They don’t get to have a say in this! Why? Because this is not they’re life! If your constantly surrounded by people who tear you apart or toxic people. You might need to start cleaning house. Caller Id is our best friend and so is voice mail, start screening those calls. These are the best ways to get rid of toxic people if your lousy at boundaries.

You will start to notice the more these people aren’t in your life, the better you start to feel. You will finally find out what it feels like to be calm. Most people find out that they’re less depressed. Once you find that calmness and inner peace you will never let someone take that from you again. Surprise that is what happiness is! Being at peace with yourself whether you have someone in your life or not. It about not having Drama in your face 24 x 7.

Unfortunately, they didn’t do a movie about this! Why? It wouldn’t sell! So start taking life one day at a time and start seeing how you start to feel. Oh and be sure to hit the off button on the cell phone it allows for sometime to yourself that you’re not being tracked down by the electronic age.

Penny J.

Raven Hawke, Llc (MN, USA)

http://www.ravenhawke.net

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Cupid & Psyche

I always love the romantic story of these two lovers. It is not an easy path but it is beautiful all the same.

I always believe that whether your alone or with someone on Valentine’s day; you should always be treated well.

How we treat ourselves does teach others how to treat us. If  you’re not in a relationship, that’s okay. That is the perfect time to decide what you want to do for yourself on Valentine’s Day. Some people are foodies. They have one thing they must have as a meal on that day. Others love art, so maybe they love to go to art museums or buy themselves a piece of art, whether it’s a key chain or a functional piece of art. There all different ways to spend Valentine’s day so don’t limit yourself.

If you are in a relationship, this is usually the time that  will either make or break the relationship. What I mean by that, if you love the person it won’t matter how you spend you evening. If you haven’t been treated well in this relationship that will become even more obvious. Either way, you will learn something about the other person. Either you are a good fit or you are not. It isn’t worth being in a relationship were neither of you are being the real you.

A real person will accept our flaws and not keep pointing them out to us. Love is about loving the person and not about picking a person apart.

Remember it is your life and don’t settle for a person to please other people. This is your life.

May all of you have a very blessed Valentine’s day!

Penny J.

Raven Hawke, Llc (MN, USA)

http://www.ravenhawke.net

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Reading Your Favorite Books

Lately I found myself pulling out some books that I truly cherish. I have been reading four books at once. Each one has something to offer me. I read a little from each book til I’m full of that book and then move to the next book. Sometimes I read them in a different order. Each book is feeding a part of my soul. No one book is more important than the rest. It is like being surrounded by supportive friends. Each has something delicious to share. Each has something to add.

It’s like having your favorite friends over and each person has brought something for the meal. That’s exactly what it feels like a meal. It is what sustains the soul to get through each day and face each challenge! To know that you are not alone. Others have gone before you and have faced similar challenges and taken their spin on the situation and either tried to kick the obstacle in their way or to think about another way of attack until they felt that they could over come the obstacle. Reflection is a very nice tool. It allows you to look at the past successes and failure objectively. Sometimes there was never a way to win the situation and it was a way to pull you back onto your path.

Sometimes because we are more seasoned, can recognize those battles that we can and can not win. Sometimes its a team effort and not a solo venture? Either way we learn something. It’s really about getting past all the drama and giving it your best and if your best isn’t good enough then that’s just too bad. This is not about pass/fail it’s about growth.

Each of these books is a strategy to help you rally your efforts to achieve and concur those obstacles in life!

Penny J.

Raven Hawke, Llc   (MN, USA)

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The Dance Of Love

There are many types of love. There is the love across a crowded room where you can sense the other persons energy before you see them. Sounds like something out of a romance novel doesn’t it! I am constantly warning my clients about the chemistry thing in all the different love scenarios. If the other person isn’t feeling it long-term it’s a wash.

Sometimes, I think the reason why we see it in all its different nuances is so when the real deal comes we truly recognize it. If you have come from an abusive relationship or grew up in an abusive home the journey to love can be very bumpy.  All of these experiences are to teach us what love is not so that when love comes knocking you can really recognize it.

Love is not about belittling another person or slamming someone’s self-esteem into the ground. Love does not beat someone black and blue. Love is about  each person in the relationship growing and discovering new things about themselves and the other person. Celebrating your successes and failures without fear of ridicule. When two people come together they actually bring out the best in each other . They fit together like a puzzle piece that hasn’t been forced to fit. When it is a perfect match it is truly the dance of love.

Penny J.

Raven Hawke, Llc  (MN, USA)

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http://www.ravenhawke.net

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Finding the Right Place

It never ceases to amaze me that when something or someone has found their right place. Things start to flow with more ease; less clutter where there used to be. It took me almost six years to get a drawer cleaned out because I was so busy. When I would look at this drawer I didn’t even know what I wanted that drawer to be. I had the same problems with other areas of the room too. Part of the biggest problem was that the previous resident had started so many projects and not finished them. There was chaos in almost every room which made the energy of the rooms feel exhausting.

In the years, that I’ve lived here. I’ve tackled some pretty daunting projects to get the energy of the house to calm down and feel less exhausting. It took almost the eleven years to get things repaired or replaced. This last year was a really big win. Projects that had waited over ten years were finally within reach of being finished. These repairs have made the house feel more complete. Last night, after looking at some organizational tools for kitchens. I finally found an example of  shelves that I have near my sink. They have a use and until last night, was never able to find an example of how they are used.  As soon as,  I got the idea I moved the dried beans in jars to the shelves. The kitchen now looks more put together than it has since I moved in.

I also feel like our space does mimic our lives. As we get more clarity it dominoes into other areas of  our lives as well.

Penny J.

Raven Hawke, Llc  (MN, USA)

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A Great Book To Read

This book is a really great book to have in your personal library. Whether you are into small business or improving your life. This book is really great. The title is “The  Richest Man Who Ever Lived” (King Solomon). by Steven K. Scott. You should be able to find this book at your local or county library. I always like to check a book out from the library before I buy it. This has information about marriage and more.

It is a great resource on how to bring your dreams forward. It is more detailed on how to bring goals into being a reality. Whenever I find great books, I have to share them with people.

Penny J.

Raven Hawke, Llc  (MN, USA)

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http://www.ravenhawke.net

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Something Special

One of the nicest things to do for yourself is make or buy something that is special to you. You don’t have to spend a lot of money. The objective is not to just purchase or make something nice for yourself; it is to do something that makes you feel at peace with yourself and calm in general. We take so much for granted sometimes in our everyday life that we forget to pay attention to things that really matter in our lives.

By being more aware of what brings you peace and calmness. You will attract more of that type of energy into your life and reduce the stress in it. You will be focussing on what you would like to be part of your life. Your life is more filled with beautiful moments because they are more conscious moments in your life. These small and simple changes can bring in some really wonderful changes.

You start to see more money in your life from a new job. Maybe you find a house that fits your personality better. By bringing more beauty into your life. You start to see more beautiful moments in your life with the  you spend your time with.

Buying yourself flowers that you find visually pleasing or a perfume that makes you feel special that is worn for special occasions. It can be a really nice bottle of wine or music that you’ve wanted to get.  It can be as big or small just so it makes you feel calm and peaceful when you use, taste or listen to it.

By being more at peace and calm we attract things to us more easily than we can when we’re stressed out and unfocused. This is why we sometimes see a person suddenly get all these wonderful or not so wonderful changes that seem to cascade in people’s lives sometimes. That doesn’t mean that people don’t sometimes have moments where their world seems to be out of control. It means that they might be ready for new changes and things are making way for the new by exiting the old.

Penny J.

Raven Hawke, Llc  (MN, USA)

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http://www.ravenhawke.net

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