Cleaning Your Space

Most people dust and vaccuum their home and keep it clean. Some not so much? When you have different people in and out of your home and personal space. That energy become absorbed in your energy field and your home.  This energy can affect how people interact with you and opportunities that open or don’t open up to you.

Just like you would shower everyday. You might want to pay attention to the energy around you. Using real incense or a smudge bundle can help get rid of this energy. Pay attention to how your incense smells next time you burn it. If it smells sour for any reason you might want to start to burn a purifying incense or a sage bundle to purify your space.

When you burn your incense again after the purification. It should not smell sour. If it does, you have more clearing to do. Salt is a purifier as well.  You might want to put salt in a small container such as a votive container.  This will absorb any heavy or negative energy that has come in with you.

Penny J. (MN, USA)

Raven Hawke, Llc

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Going Within

There are many of us, who have no clue who we really are? We don’t know how life works for us. What do I mean by that? Well most of us have been surrounded by others and never had a moment to intimately get to know ourselves. If you’re an empath, this can be its own kind of hell. Picking up everyone’s shit. Thinking that your depressed when your picking up on the people who live with you. Having headaches that aren’t yours.

You might have no idea what I’m talking about. Everyone should be required to live by themselves to actually get to know themselves. This means finding out what stuff is really yours and what is not. What stuff is just bleeding off another and dumping onto you. One thing, that I’ve learned is that the things I used to think were mine. Were in fact someone elses. That means facing the dark side of yourself and giving it a great big wet one.

Society, likes to shove all their dogma down our throats as though it is a fact. When really it is a form of control and shaming. A way to make people feel like shit about themselves so they won’t stand up for themselves. Won’t have more self-confidence. Once you intimately get to know yourself. You will never go back.  You learn that those parts, that you’ve been told are un-loveable are really strengths that have yet to be accepted.

When you start to accept all of who you are? You will find that you are finally becoming a whole person. That part of yourself that you wanted to eliminate will stop having its tantrums; when you finally accept it and allow it to play in more healthy ways. Sounds like parenting a child! In a way, it very much is. Reading parenting books might sound crazy but if you want to win this war that will be your best course.

This will help you integrate your shadow side, it will allow you to get to know yourself without judgement. Everyone hates to be judged, the shadow is no different. Schedule time with yourself so that you can start to allow it to heal and play. Think you’re the only one that didn’t get the manual on how the world works for you. Trying to move forward when no doors or window will open up. Many will say it’s all about taking action. If you’ve already taken many actions. Then you might want to examine what area of your life hasn’t had attention for sometime.

This answer might be about getting out in nature. It might be about actually taking time to enjoy live instead of allowing it to pass you by. When was the last time you actually played. Play isn’t only for children. After all that demon that you call your shadow didn’t just come out of no where. It came from being ignored and suppressed because it’s not acceptable. It is part of you whether you like it or not. It will come out less with less drama when it’s allowed to play more.

Play also allows you to move forward when everything else has been tried. Especially when your stuck tight and not knowing what you’re doing wrong. Play can be playing ball, listening to music, playing musical instruments. Writing, drawing or even painting. When we get out of balance our lives can suddenly seem like its hitting the pavement.

Most of us, were never taught what balance is? We only start to realize its out of control, when it starts to take on a life of its own. This is why the key is to get to know yourself so you can try to steer your life in the direction you want it to go.

Penny J. (MN, USA)

Raven Hawke, Llc

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Self Empowerment

When is the last time you’ve actually stood up for yourself. To many people are used to not making waves. Which is quite ironic if you think about the fundamentals this country was founded on.

When is the last time you took inventory of those people who are emotionally supportive and those that are not? It’s kind of like cleaning out your closet for the seasons. What relationships still fit and which don’t. This is not about judging those people. It’s allowing them to become who they’re meant to become. It’s about allowing yourself to become the best person you can become. That means embracing the good and the ugly about yourself.

Yes, I said the good and the ugly. Because without these parts, you are only half of a person and not a whole. The ugly parts of ourselves allow us to become strong in the face of hardship. If it makes you feel better, you can look at it as white light and dark matter. Without one or the other, nothing could exist.

That doesn’t mean that you can’t change the things that you don’t like. It means that you are able to pick and choose when to allow that part of yourself out. By allowing it play, you are less likely to have unannounced explosions. Even Winston Churchill had his dark side, as was evident when he was a child. He used to like to blow things up when he was in school and this wasn’t in the science lab. Just think what they would have done with him in this day and age.

He would have been labeled a terrorist for sure. The UK certainly had a different approach to dealing with children. They refocused their energy into more constructive ways.

Getting back on topic, families and religion are master manipulators. They are good at the game of shaming. The phone is the greatest tool for teaching boundaries. Turn off the TV & Radio for ten minutes a day and see if you can’t start feeding the parts of yourself that need nurturing. This self-care can be about exploring subjects or activities that you wanted to do as a child or an adult. I call this play, without play our lives become stagnant.

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What will you be giving up?

This time of year people think of it as a time to make a sacrifice in their life. Why not think of it as a time to purge the things or people who you’ve out grown. It might be a time to stop allowing people to dump their drama all over your life.

Yes, life happens and there are unexpected events that occur beyond our control. There are also cause and effect dramas that are not beyond Peoples control too. Instead of trying to solve everyone’s problems. See if they can’t start learning from their mistakes. These are the one’s that they caused all by themselves.

Think of it almost as parenting skills to allow a person to find their own solutions on their own journey in life. Sometimes life gets really dirty and messy too. No one learns anything when people are constantly rescuing them from themselves.

This is not to say that you shouldn’t be emotionally supportive when life throws a person a curve ball that no one expected. Sometimes these lessons are a test to help a person learn new skills or to make them emotionally stronger to survive a future event.  This does not mean the person is a bad person and that’s why these things happened to them.

Just remember everything that you’ve learned is never a waste of time. You will use it in some capacity in the future to help yourself or others.

Sometimes it companies or services that we’re forced to use that are causing us unnecessary stress and drama. If it’s a company that you work for? Maybe its time to look for a different position either inside or outside of that company. If it’s a service, you always have the right to refuse to use it. There is nothing worse than a service that consistently is not meeting it’s promises.

Caller Id like voice mail is designed as a tool to weed out unnecessary calls. Weed out is the key word here. If your goal is to have more peace in your life your going to have to weed that garden sometime. You will be amazed at how much more peaceful and enjoyable your life becomes.

Penny J (MN, USA)

2016 The New Energy Has Begun!

So far January of 2016 is starting out without a bang. I have had some weird twists but some of those are related to mercury in retrograde. I have had people from my past thrown back on to my path. I will start to communicate some of them and come what may it will definitely determine who will stay and who will go?

I’m in a bit of a holding pattern on some changes. No matter how many times I try to do something it keeps hitting a wall. So I’m letting it be for now. I’ve seen some areas start to open up more than they have in the past. I also think, it has to do with some shifts that I’ve made in my home recently. I am definitely seeing the changes.

That saying about when one door closes another opens is definitely very true. Sometimes it can almost be like an elevator. The reason the door hasn’t opened yet, is because you haven’t reached your floor yet. Earlier in the week, I had warned a friend to have various plans in place for work. Tonight she called and her work is considering moving out of state. The other shoe definitely did drop. This is how the Universe works, when a person and an environment no longer fit. You can fight kicking and screaming but it won’t really matter when you no longer fit each other.

It will be interesting to see what the Universe has in store for her. I do think it will all be good things.  That’s how the Universe works. It is always the bringer of better gifts. Sometimes it takes us a while to realize all of those gifts but they are gifts. Less stress, no more working with co-workers that annoy us.

Sometimes the messages are much stronger from the Universe; like when you are nearly suffocated not once but twice by two different peoples perfume at two different companies. What are the odds on that one! LOL! Oh and because your still stubborn for the finale. Lets have you pass out twice at the last company. Not because theres a medical condition but because your a light worker and you need to get your butt on your spiritual path. How’s that for the Universe kicking your Ass personally!!

When I tell people that are thinking about getting more spiritual that their life will change. I’m not joking! Some people might lose their spouse, job or friends because they no longer fit each other. Thats how change works! There is no half way about it. It’s not like just taking some things to a charity and you feel a little lighter because you got rid of some things. You are now walking in both worlds the physical and the spiritual. Things that didn’t used to effect you in the physical now will. Why? Because the rules have changed! You can’t pretend that things don’t exist when you now know they do! Denial will smack you up side your head with the new reality!

The learning how to fly lesson is a real fun one too. Why ? Because your learning how to write it as you go. There is no manual! No one can teach you how to do this! It is a very personal journey for you alone! Why ? Only you know what you have yet to learn, heal and grow from. It’s like feeling around in the dark with your shoe to see where the next step is or isn’t.

Penny J. (MN, USA)

Personal Victories

All of us have goals or things that we want to do some day? It’s those moments, that you finally achieve them and are really happy or you come to the realization that what was all the Hoop La about? It might be because we realize we were really chasing someone else’s dream for acceptance.  When you really own your victories, it lets you know that other thing are within reach as well.

In some cases that bucket list is starting to get whittled away at. It’s like looking at a Rolodex of our life and gauging where we’re at and how far we’ve come and how far we’ve yet to go. Sometimes its a feeling that we are finally ready for one of those things on our list that never quite felt right before now. The Universe, can also be a pain in the ass too. Where nothing seems to line up to allow you to take the next step to complete the final piece of the task.

The nice part about these victories is that they’re yours. No one can ever take them away from you! It’s not about people pleasing. It’s about testing and pleasing yourself for your personal growth as a person. Sometimes we like what we’ve become and other times not so much. We are almost like our own person clay. We can always recreate ourselves and change what we don’t like. Whether it be ourselves, home, lives, career or friends.

We are either a completed piece of art or a work in progress depending on how we choose to look at ourselves!

Penny J.

Raven Hawke, Llc (MN, USA)

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Happiness

Happiness has been touted as something outside of one’s self . It tries to get us to believe that we are these helpless victims and that if we’re lucky we will find happiness. What a bunch of crap!

I recently had a client, who really believed that he needed this one person to complete him and find happiness. If this client had been a woman, people would describe this as the prince charming trap. A lot of religions promote this mentality as well. This is why so many people are unhappy.

Part of learning about happiness is about learning about yourself! Who you are? Who you are not? Who do you want to be? Learning that being selfish can in fact be a very good thing, it helps you set up boundaries! It helps you to say no to things that you don’t want to do. It help you to grow and discover new things. It helps you to take back your personal power!

I always get a kick out of people who freak out over Tarot decks. The two cards they usually go nuts over are the Devil  and the Death card. The Devil is the best one to get, it usually reminds you that you need to stop giving away your personal power and stop playing the starring role as the victim! It’s about set boundaries, be it with family, friends or co-workers. It actually gets you to finally participate in your own life. It helps you to move out of being stuck and unhappy. It allows you to let go of friends that aren’t where you’re at right now. This is in no way a rejection or a judgement on them. If your paths are meant to cross in the future they will.

Now to the Death card, people always assume this card means that someone is going to die! Well yes and no! It is the ending of how they’re life has been up to this point. It is the new beginning for how they want to move they’re life forward.  Examples: Single person is getting married. It is the death of they’re single life and the beginning of they’re married life. The Death card is a blessing since it means that there is a new beginning coming.

Happiness is within all of us, it was never outside of us. I’m not going to say this is a mind-set. It is actually about self discovery and uncovering or pulling back the layers on yourself and finding those great things about yourself that you love and like. This is not about someone’s opinion of your or they’re judgement of you. They don’t get to have a say in this! Why? Because this is not they’re life! If your constantly surrounded by people who tear you apart or toxic people. You might need to start cleaning house. Caller Id is our best friend and so is voice mail, start screening those calls. These are the best ways to get rid of toxic people if your lousy at boundaries.

You will start to notice the more these people aren’t in your life, the better you start to feel. You will finally find out what it feels like to be calm. Most people find out that they’re less depressed. Once you find that calmness and inner peace you will never let someone take that from you again. Surprise that is what happiness is! Being at peace with yourself whether you have someone in your life or not. It about not having Drama in your face 24 x 7.

Unfortunately, they didn’t do a movie about this! Why? It wouldn’t sell! So start taking life one day at a time and start seeing how you start to feel. Oh and be sure to hit the off button on the cell phone it allows for sometime to yourself that you’re not being tracked down by the electronic age.

Penny J.

Raven Hawke, Llc (MN, USA)

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