Next time your feeling like shit about your life. Take a deep breath and focus on your victories. You are on your own unique journey. No one can do it for you. It is about you growing and discovering things about your life that like and those things that you don’t. It is not about being shamed and being make to feel less than.
After all no one has a right to do that. They have not walked in your shoes or experienced any of those things that have made you uniquely you! Stop comparing yourself to others and don’t allow others to compare to other people either. You are here to live your life for you and not someone else.
Remember to start enforcing boundaries. Boundaries are our friend. They are to keep out those sacks of shit that have no business in our lives. Boundaries help us to decide if we still want those people in our lives and to them that their behavior will not be tolerated.
These roads and journeys will teach us about ourselves in ways we would never had the opportunity to before. It allows us to breath and grow. We learn how to adult and how to keep parts of our child self alive to nurture our creativity. It allows us to play and explore new and old things. It gives us opportunites to stretch ourselves and find out how strong we really are inside.
Along this journey, we will laugh and cry. We will meet new people and decide who to keep as friends. Who we will let go of so they can grow on their journey. Sometimes our paths will cross briefly. People will enter our lives, who will teach us things. Sometimes we will have things to share with them.
Life is a smoregasboard, so take advantage of the buffet. It’s there to be enjoyed. Then finally you will make it to the destination that you thought; you’d never reach!
Penny J. (MN, USA)
Raven Hawke, Llc
I know someone that had lot of things happen in their life that could be viewed as tragedies. This person expected to have many care takers in their life. What ended up happening was that those care takers were removed one by one. Forcing this person to take charge of their life and others. This person thought they could use a disability as a free pass from adulting. Turns out, even the Universe doesn’t buy that excuse. This person is now having to be the care taker of another persons life. Adulting can be one hell of a bitch. Some of the blame can be layed at that persons parents door step for doing nothing but being an enabler.
Many with this same disability are in the work force and living very productive lives. This person was allowed to use it as an excuse to hide from life. To step back from life almost like becoming a child again. Only some of the things didn’t go as planned. A sibling died, two years later their spouse died unexpectedly. They had to plan a funeral. They ran to another state to live because of the tax stucture. I found this weird a little bit, since the person was afraid to be in a big city. I’ve moved a lot when I was a kid, I woud think moving to another state would be more scary. One of their parents, died two years later. This one was a little easier but not by much. The funeral, was easier but the selling of a house was another story. Now, their finding themselves having to manage a surviving parents life decisions because of health issues.What is the Universe teaching this person. COURAGE, it takes courage and strength. This person is having to face their fears whether they want to or not.
That saying that you can run but you can’t hide has never been truer. The Universe will not allow a coward to remain a coward in their own life. It will arrange circumstances to happen to make you participate in your life. No matter how good or ugly it gets. That added stress you see someone going thru. Sometimes, its because they’ve been sitting on the side lines all their life and its time for them to play whether they like it or not. That’s not to say that shit doesn’t happen to good people from time to time.
Penny J. (MN, USA)
Raven Hawke, Llc