One of the things that can be frustrating as an empath is the emotions that others start throwing around. Once you get better at discerning whose they are? It makes it much more easier to detach. Part of the learning curve is identifying if it belongs to a living or non-living person.
Just as living people have a certain smell that reminds you of them. They also have signature emotions too. If a relative used to be sad all the time you might need a visual cue. If your an empath, you will remember what it felt like to be around that person. For young children or teenagers, they might not even know what they’re feeling.
In our society, its so frowned down upon to express your feelings and emotions; depending on your family background. It usually isn’t until you live on your own that you begin to realize that those emotions might not have been yours. I remember having a client who was having a terrible headache. It wasn’t until I realized it wasn’t mine that the headache stopped for me.
Unfortunately, if only this was the case with the dead. Especially when they’re trying to communicate how they died. If they were dismembered it really isn’t fun. It’s only once you’ve finally confirmed some facts about the deceased that the feeling finally goes away. For young children and teens, if friend or family member has died and suffered from suicidial behavior or anxiety and is hanging around them. It can make these children start to feel these emotions.
It’s often why there might be one suicide after another in teens and very sensitive individuals. They can mistake those feelings for their own. The deceased person, doesn’t realize that they’re triggering this emotion in the living. They are usually just trying to not feel so lost. Because of churches protocal on suicide, it hasn’t helped either. Many who have committed suicide are afraid to cross over for fear of what awaits them on the other side.
This is why it’s so important for individuals to learn what their actual emotions and state of mind actually feels like. Usually this doesn’t happen until they are living alone if they ever do? Going on a personal retreat can be a growing experience. It will allow you to actually take the time to get to know yourself.
Penny J (MN, USA)
Raven Hawke, Llc