Tis the Season

If your under unbelievable stress because of the season. Take a step back and reevaluate your life. You don’t have to live up to anyone’s expectations. The season is really supposed to be about spending time with friends and family. This means enjoying each other. The present thing is a commercialization of the season. Too many people have forgotten what the holidays are supposed to be about.

This might allow you to start to get some breathing room. This is about creating your own traditions. It supposed to be fun! Not stressful! If your family is all about the presents and gifts that okay. This is not a judgement! The holidays have basically been hijacked by the retailers with their marketing campaigns to guilt you to buy.

Some families are in different financial situations. Some haven’t noticed a change in theirs. If you have been hit hard by finances where your holding on by a shoe string. Your priorities are still in survival mode. Many people are just trying to keep a roof over their heads. A nice way to celebrate the season might be to play board games this season. Some of you might not have a clue what a board game is. Reading a book that embraces the season might be a nice choice for the family or if your solo. See no cost ideas. It doesn’t have to be about spending money and it shouldn’t be!

As we get closer to the Solstice and the Holiday Season, please just enjoy your family and friends. Share food or time with each other. If you enjoy food, just take time to enjoy the process of creating the food. It’s also a good time for family to each prepare part of the meal or making cookies or deserts together. Take time to enjoy eating together. If your thing is to watch a seasonal movie together then go for it.

Wishing you a warm and loving holiday.

Penny J. (MN, USA)

Raven Hawke, Llc

http://www.ravenhawke.net

info@ravenhawke.net

 

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Going Within

There are many of us, who have no clue who we really are? We don’t know how life works for us. What do I mean by that? Well most of us have been surrounded by others and never had a moment to intimately get to know ourselves. If you’re an empath, this can be its own kind of hell. Picking up everyone’s shit. Thinking that your depressed when your picking up on the people who live with you. Having headaches that aren’t yours.

You might have no idea what I’m talking about. Everyone should be required to live by themselves to actually get to know themselves. This means finding out what stuff is really yours and what is not. What stuff is just bleeding off another and dumping onto you. One thing, that I’ve learned is that the things I used to think were mine. Were in fact someone elses. That means facing the dark side of yourself and giving it a great big wet one.

Society, likes to shove all their dogma down our throats as though it is a fact. When really it is a form of control and shaming. A way to make people feel like shit about themselves so they won’t stand up for themselves. Won’t have more self-confidence. Once you intimately get to know yourself. You will never go back.  You learn that those parts, that you’ve been told are un-loveable are really strengths that have yet to be accepted.

When you start to accept all of who you are? You will find that you are finally becoming a whole person. That part of yourself that you wanted to eliminate will stop having its tantrums; when you finally accept it and allow it to play in more healthy ways. Sounds like parenting a child! In a way, it very much is. Reading parenting books might sound crazy but if you want to win this war that will be your best course.

This will help you integrate your shadow side, it will allow you to get to know yourself without judgement. Everyone hates to be judged, the shadow is no different. Schedule time with yourself so that you can start to allow it to heal and play. Think you’re the only one that didn’t get the manual on how the world works for you. Trying to move forward when no doors or window will open up. Many will say it’s all about taking action. If you’ve already taken many actions. Then you might want to examine what area of your life hasn’t had attention for sometime.

This answer might be about getting out in nature. It might be about actually taking time to enjoy live instead of allowing it to pass you by. When was the last time you actually played. Play isn’t only for children. After all that demon that you call your shadow didn’t just come out of no where. It came from being ignored and suppressed because it’s not acceptable. It is part of you whether you like it or not. It will come out less with less drama when it’s allowed to play more.

Play also allows you to move forward when everything else has been tried. Especially when your stuck tight and not knowing what you’re doing wrong. Play can be playing ball, listening to music, playing musical instruments. Writing, drawing or even painting. When we get out of balance our lives can suddenly seem like its hitting the pavement.

Most of us, were never taught what balance is? We only start to realize its out of control, when it starts to take on a life of its own. This is why the key is to get to know yourself so you can try to steer your life in the direction you want it to go.

Penny J. (MN, USA)

Raven Hawke, Llc

info@ravenhawke.net

http://www.ravenhawke.net

 

 

 

Trying New Things?

There is nothing wrong with trying new things as long as it’s not triggering anxiety. If you’re trying something way out of your comfort zone. You might want to evaluate if it’s just the learning curve or if there financial risk that’s associated with it.

If you already have the foundation in place that’s one thing. If you don’t have any of the skill sets and its unfamiliar territory. Maybe its time to take a step back and not venture into this venture.

Trying new things should never cause severe anxiety attacks. If it does your not on the right track. Always listen to your inner guidance. It’s there for a reason. New things, should give you excitement or a calmness. These are internal gauges to know if your just spreading your wings a bit.

The advice from many books about, how if you don’t understand something. Don’t invest in it is a very wise one. If your going to try something out of your comfort zone, do it in baby steps. This way with each step you are building your confidence and not jumping off a cliff. There are so many ways we each can grow as a person each day. This growth can come in learning, reading or experiencing something new.

Make a list and mark it one through ten. One being easy or in your personal comfort zone. Ten being a bit of a stretch for you. The tenth one might be broken down into bite size pieces until can accomplish it with ease.

Penny J. (MN, USA)

Raven Hawke, Llc

info@ravenhawke.net

http://www.ravenhawke.net