Here’s the thing, as a society we are sick and damaged. This is the part that makes the least sense though. We have many agencies that are supposed to help people and families heal. Violence in our lives is not an economic thing or even an occupation thing. We have batters of women, children and even men in our society.
We as a society should be healing and growing. We should be trying to change our family dynamics so that child abuse, battery of women, men and even rape are no more. Some people will point the finger at the Justice System. Here’s the thing with the Judges’ depending on the state the Judges’ hands may be tied by what their allowed and not allowed to do. How do I even know this? I studied criminal justice once upon a time.
I can’t even say I have the answer. None of it makes sense, it used to be people thought many of these crimes were more likely to happen in families that were in poverty. This theory soon goes out the window when you see this same pattern in middle class and upper class families. Is it a learned behavior? Maybe, yes and no. Children are especially vulnerable to this pattern when picking their future mates. I don’t think any person sets out to carry this on as a family tradition. In many, cases each generation is a little less violent than the one before.
The agencies can be the problem themselves, some people go into social work to make a difference or to appear to make a difference. The child protection agencies aren’t that great either. Some of these agencies step in too late. Part of the problem is that the case workers don’t know what to look for? They ignore the calls from neighbors telling them the children are being neglected. They have no idea what a starving infant or child looks like. Almost sounds like some shit out of a third world country right.
It’s amazing how developed countries are still sick themselves. Now to get to that part about violence being a learned behavior. Here’s why I said maybe and no. Law enforcement and soldiers have in some cases been known to batter their families. In some of these cases seeing so much violence can start to desensitize them to it. Stress can also play a part. Everyone has a different breaking point.
As far as we’ve come as a society, we still have much further to go to become truly civilized. I don’t think this is just an American thing either. We don’t truly have a culture, since we are composed of lots of subcultures. It’s surprising to have so much violence still going on in the 21st Century.
Penny J. (MN, USA)
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