When is the last time you’ve actually stood up for yourself. To many people are used to not making waves. Which is quite ironic if you think about the fundamentals this country was founded on.
When is the last time you took inventory of those people who are emotionally supportive and those that are not? It’s kind of like cleaning out your closet for the seasons. What relationships still fit and which don’t. This is not about judging those people. It’s allowing them to become who they’re meant to become. It’s about allowing yourself to become the best person you can become. That means embracing the good and the ugly about yourself.
Yes, I said the good and the ugly. Because without these parts, you are only half of a person and not a whole. The ugly parts of ourselves allow us to become strong in the face of hardship. If it makes you feel better, you can look at it as white light and dark matter. Without one or the other, nothing could exist.
That doesn’t mean that you can’t change the things that you don’t like. It means that you are able to pick and choose when to allow that part of yourself out. By allowing it play, you are less likely to have unannounced explosions. Even Winston Churchill had his dark side, as was evident when he was a child. He used to like to blow things up when he was in school and this wasn’t in the science lab. Just think what they would have done with him in this day and age.
He would have been labeled a terrorist for sure. The UK certainly had a different approach to dealing with children. They refocused their energy into more constructive ways.
Getting back on topic, families and religion are master manipulators. They are good at the game of shaming. The phone is the greatest tool for teaching boundaries. Turn off the TV & Radio for ten minutes a day and see if you can’t start feeding the parts of yourself that need nurturing. This self-care can be about exploring subjects or activities that you wanted to do as a child or an adult. I call this play, without play our lives become stagnant.
Penny J. (MN, USA)