Recently, I looked down at my fingers and noticed for the first time. A scar that had been on my fingers since I was eleven was finally gone. Which is sort of interesting since I’ve been doing a lot of house cleaning in my personal life. I had made a decision in 2006, that those family members that weren’t positive influences would have to go. I had been doing this year after year.
Finally the last few people who had to go were last year. It gets pretty easy when they’ve finally crossed the final boundary. I did notice other changes in other areas of my life as well. More opportunities coming in from different areas of my life. Some of the things are reminisce of when I was in my early 20’s.
Some people think that only soldiers suffer from post traumatic stress. The truth is that all people whether its emotional or physical scars suffer from this syndrom. Each person has to face their demons on their own terms and deal with it when they are ready.
People that think these people should just move on or not dwell on it have no clue. Certain situations can trigger these memories. Some people will get help from a trained therapist. This is one of the best things for them as long as the therapist feels comfortable for that individual.
Others choose to go it alone thinking that they can some how get a grip on it themselves. This is true for some people but not all. It takes being extremely honest with yourself. Not all people can do this. This is one of the reasons why support groups have formed to make it a safe environment for those individuals that might not be ready for therapy.
All of these changes are about taking one step at a time. It takes a lot of bravery to admit that you can’t do it alone. This doesn’t make the individual crazy. It’s a healing process that can take time. Some people will go to a therapist for a while and then take a break and come back to them when their ready again. This is perfectly normal.
I always encourage my clients to see someone that they are comfortable with. It’s a step in taking back control of your life.
Penny J. (MN, USA)
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