Divorce

There is nothing uglier than the ending of a marriage. It can be very brutal, anything you thought you knew about the person you were married are quickly dispelled.

It’s like a declaration of WAR! The gloves quickly come off and the rules get thrown out the window. If your one of those fortunate to not have had a divorce like that. I say you are truly blessed to have had a divorce that was civilized and without punches. Especially if you have children involved in the divorce process.

Many are not so lucky! If you didn’t have children or pets to fight over in the divorce process you are still lucky even though the process was HELL!

Divorce, brings out the very worst in any human being. It is raw and vulnerable. Divorces that involve children are one of the worst. It’s like watching a boxing match. Very brutal! The casualties are usually the children that are being fought over in the divorce.

This WAR usually does not end with the custody battle. If it did that would be more merciful! No it continues into the Child Support and Parenting Issues. Each parent trying to strike back at the other for imagined or real hurts.

They often lose sight of the child, when they fight over the child support money. The child quickly gets lost in all of this. It’s almost like a game of Chess and the child or children quickly become treated like the inanimate pawns of the game. No thought is ever given to the children when one parent takes a verbal swing at the other in front of that child.

The verbal wounds still draw blood. Maybe you can’t see the blood you’ve drawn, because that child is bleeding inside. These wounds still go very deep. For children that have lived through domestic violence and watched the horror one one parent beating the shit out of the other parent. It magnifies when the other parent threatens to murder the other parent over alimony or child support in front of the child these are only horrors that some can only imagine. For the rest that have lived through it. It makes marriage and divorce look like a living hell!

This is why the Judge, pulls both parents aside and asks them to remember their children; because parenting is a live time it doesn’t end with the Divorce.

Penny J.

Raven Hawke, Llc (MN, USA)

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Nature

One of the most healing things is nature. It is the best form of meditation. There are messages everywhere.

Pay attention to the insects or animals you see. They all have a message for you. My guides were on me to take a break and to take a walk in nature again. I saw martins, I didn’t even know we had these great little birds in our state.  I stood about three ft away as they balanced on golden rod trying to eat the flowers. There were acorns that crunched under my shoes. I decided to pickup two of the acorns for my faery collection. I also found another acorn that still had its cap attached so I picked that one up as well.

The weather was sunny but not hot. It was the perfect temperature. I got to enjoy the trail as I walked along. I got to lose myself in the walk. This is my perfect time with nature.  I decided to finally stop, when I found a large boulder to sit on. I think I sat there for about 10 min. I enjoyed looking at the mighty large oak trees all around. They created a beautiful canopy.

Finally I decided it was time to go back. On my way back on the trail. A runner had quietly snuck up on me and I jumped when he was about to pass me. It was amazing how quiet and peaceful it was. I had forgotten how much I missed being there.

When was the last time you took time for yourself?

Penny J.

Raven Hawke, Llc (MN, USA)

http://www.facebook.com/ravenhawkellcusa

http://www.ravenhawke.net

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